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How we undermine our own self-confidence.

"I have only limited time, but it seems like I have infinite things to do"

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you recognize yourself in this statement?

If you scored yourself a 6 or more, you may find it hard to say no.

When you actualy mean no when you say yes, you better say no in the first place.


Otherwise you undermine your own trustworthyness.

If you really want to be trustworthy,

you have to stop canceling and rescheduling things.


When you fail to fulfill commitments that you freely make,

trust is certainly not the result.

We overcommit ourselves.

We don't like to disappoint people.

So we tell them what we think they want to hear.

We say yes to something,

because it's so much easier than saying no.

Never has canceling been easier and less painful for us than it is in the age of the text message.

We can cancel without ever having to speak with someone.

Without having to meet someone.

We can cancel five minutes ahead without explanation.

We just add an emoticon to our message, and we convince ourselves that it's almost the same as if we'd met our commitment.

But the thought process isn't painfree.

We feel guilty about it.

And in the core we undermine the confidence in ourselves.

It's hard to trust others when we know we can't trust ourselves.

Last year I decided I would stop rescheduling my commitments.

As I kept more and more commitments, I got more and more confident.

We're all in the same boat.

Don't know how to say no?

Google 'How to say no to a request' and study it.

Or send me a message and explore what's really holding you back.


The Care Principles Podcast
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